My Response to "The 17 Reasons I'm An Undateable Girl"

I thought this blog post was very creative and entertaining. I’m one of those people that reads the article or blog and then I go straight to the comments because we all know they are usually hilarious!

However, some of the comments that were posted about the author were a little hateful. Now, everyone needs to remember that her blog is exactly that… HER blog. It’s her opinion on certain topics or issues. She’s allowing anyone to post their opinions in the comment section—which is very brave of her.

However, I personally don’t think people should make excuses as to why they are “undateable.”

Here is the original post:

http://elitedaily.com/women/single-girl-problems-the-17-things-that-make-me-an-undateable-girl/

And here is mine...

            1.  I'd rather stay in than go out

TRUE DAT! I have to agree with the weather part because, ya see, where I live, in the middle of January, we can have a snow storm for 3 days during the week, but by the time Saturday rolls around it’s sunny and 75! However, just because a girl (or guy) goes out on any night doesn’t necessarily mean that she or he is trying to find the next bf/gf. Usually I go out to drink and hangout with people… that I like.

 

          2. If I do go out, I actually probably will remember the majority of it:

I may get super drunk like once a year, but I definitely don’t do it because I’m single or “undateable.” It usually means it’s Mardi Gras season.

 

3.   I don’t want to meet your family… or maybe I do. 

Me personally, I’ve never had an issue with meeting a guy’s parents or other family members. Just because they are strangers doesn’t mean that they are automatically judging you. If anything, you’re judging them for possibly judging you in the future.

 4. I so want you to meet my family.

At times, they are indeed embarrassing and crazy. But, at the end of the day they are a pretty cool bunch, and if I think you’re cool enough to meet them, then get ready…. (insert evil grin)

 

     
      5. I can't even commit to what I want for lunch.

This is so true for me. I work in a restaurant and sometimes I look at the menu with both hands on my head and just stare at the menu with a blank look on my face. However, for me, it’s not about the commitment aspect of a relationship, it’s more of like… I just wanna do my own damn thing. 

6. I enjoy having the entire bed to myself far too much to share it.

YEP. I sleep in the middle of my bed, unless my cats push me over. But, just because you like to sleep alone doesn't make you "undateable." In reality, you just have more room... for your laundry... or cats (whichever you prefer).

 

7. I actually love my cat more.

I do believe girlfriends help a lot more in certain situations than boyfriends do, but then again, do any of your girlfriends know how to change the oil in their car? Doubt it. But if they do, major props to them!

 

8. I have a low tolerance for BS.

I think everyone tries to have a low tolerance about petty things, however, it's called life and sometimes you're just going to have to deal with some BS. As for "understanding, patience and compromising," don't we all need this in every relationship? It shouldn't just be with the opposite sex/sexual relationship. We need to have all 3 with our friends, parents, siblings, employers, and coworkers.

9. I'd rather hang out with my guy friends.

Some of them can be a breath of fresh air, but just because you want to hangout with your guy friends doesn't make you "undateable." In all seriousness, I think most guys might like the fact that you like to hangout with just the boys and do guy things. They may find it attractive.

10. I have trust issues.

Don't we all? I think most people have trust issues after the first few (or 100) relationships that ended badly. However, I think most people will agree that you just have to get back out there and try again. If you don't, you might end up being alone the rest of your life. But again, this doesn't mean you're "undateable," because trust goes back to everyone in your life-- family, friends, coworkers, employers, etc

11. I DON'T have an unhealthy relationship with Netflix.

Maybe with my cats, but not Netflix.

12. My afterwork schedule doesn't allow for a relationship.

This can be true, but it's kind of a lame excuse. There are tons of people that are casually or seriously dating that have 9-5 jobs or night jobs where they can't see their significant other.

13. Romantic notions make me want to vomit.

True. But, only if a person is constantly posting on Facebook or Instagram, every 6 hours, about how great their relationship is.

14. Sorry... I'd rather cuddle my cat than a pint of ice cream.

Seriously. Who would cuddle ice cream? That shit is cold. Cats are soft and warm, however, I wouldn't mind cuddling with a certain someone, just as long as my cat is invited to the cuddle sesh.

15. I can clean, but I know I can't cook.

Cooking has never been my thing, but I don't think I should be considered "undateable" just because the only thing I can cook is baked chicken. HEY! I know how to work an oven! If anything, this gives a guy the chance to teach me.

16. I want a relationship for all the wrong reasons.

 I don't think it's wrong to believe that the man should pay for dinner or lunch each time you go out... that's just chivalry! However, all relationships should be about the company... not the material possessions.

 

17. I'm too picky.

I mean c'mon people... I'm 5'9". The guy at least needs to be 5'11". But on a serious note, the whole machine that pops out that perfect guy... yeah no. That would take out the fun in dating. Dating is meant for you to figure out what kind of person you really enjoy being around. It teaches you tons of different things-- about yourself and others. However, if the machine involves spitting out Chan, I'm all for it ;)